work with me

three ways to work together:

ongoing student

we meet together at a regular time every week or every other week. this is the ideal format for long-term growth.

standard rate: $200/session

sliding scale: $100-$200/session

à la carte

book a single session, or a package of four sessions to be scheduled at your discretion within one year.

standard rate: $200/session

sliding scale: $100-$200/session

dāna

for those who cannot afford my sliding scale rate, i keep some slots in my calendar available on a donation basis. limited to one call per person per month.

available at no cost, or for a donation of $1-$100/session as desired

what practicing together looks like

there is a yin side and a yang side to our coaching sessions.

on the yin side - nothing needs to happen. fundamentally, our hour together is a time where you don't need to perform, achieve, or change yourself, and you will still be met by a safe, attuned, encouraging, loving presence.

this aspect of coaching is sometimes called "unfolding." unfolding refers to the fact that if we simply love what is true together, without placing any "shoulds" on ourselves, without making parts of us right or wrong, without needing to adhere to an agenda, our system will naturally heal and grow in the most organic way possible. the deepest flow of life follows no map.

having space held for you in this way is an opportunity to let every part of you into the sunlight. it's an opportunity to notice your edges, and test if it's ok to expand beyond them. it's a practice of being more and more completely yourself, and discovering just how incredible your authenticity actually feels.

on the yang side - there's a lot we can do! when held within the wider understanding described above, techniques, methods, and frameworks for understanding can be immensely useful. structures like these can help us notice the natural paths within us that lead to deeper freedom, and give us the wheels and engines to travel those paths.

i draw upon a wide range of techniques and traditions to support your journey. in sessions, i may guide a meditation, offer an exercise, or lead a particular process to do with parts work or attachment healing. between sessions, i recommend that clients maintain some kind of regular practice related to the skills we're developing. here are some of the main skills i have found helpful for myself and for clients:

somatic and emotional fluency

  • somatic awareness and interoception
  • recognizing and welcoming emotions
  • expressing emotions through breath, sound, words, and movement

foundational meditation practices

  • attentional facility and metacognition
  • shamatha (tranquility) meditation with the body, the breath, and metta (lovingkindness)
  • metta and compassion meditation

relational and psychodynamic attachment healing

  • bringing emotions into connection with another person (me, in this case)
  • exploring live relational material with another person
  • recognizing parts (of the psyche), communicating with parts and between parts (Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Core Transformation (CT))
  • getting in touch with the "youngness" of parts, with their innocence, sincerity, and inherent goodness
  • bringing love/resource/compassion/presence to parts through one's own inner wise adult, through another person's presence, and through the Ideal Parent Figure protocol (IPF)

insight meditation practices

  • noting practice (à la Mahasi Sayadaw, or Shinzen Young)
  • insight ways of looking by way of the three characteristics (à la Rob Burbea)
  • "do-nothing" practice

for those who are interested in medicine work, i also offer support through preparation and integration.

while these are the skills and tools that help us go deep into ourselves, there can also be a place in coaching sessions for what's happening at the object level in your life. sometimes it's useful to explore a challenging decision together, to carefully nourish the motivation for a behavior change to take root, or to zoom out and consider the larger arc of your path.

altogether, our sessions are a collaboration between both of us, with the intention to help you gain clarity about your life, heal frozen emotional wounds from the past, deepen in wisdom and compassion, and grow into authenticity and ease. what makes this possible is a recognition of the innate goodness you already are, aided by understandings and practices we have inherited from millennia of practitioners before us.